Siye sonke apho. Iiyure ezimbini ezichanekileyo zokugcwala ukuya kwi-bumper traffic kunye nomntwana omncinci ongxolayo kwisitulo esingasemva. Umgca wokhuseleko omde okhululekileyo. Uloliwe ogcweleyo. Ukuhamba kunokuba noxinzelelo-nakwabahambi abaninzi abanamava okanye abanamava.
Ngena uGqirha Todd Farchione, ugqirha wengqondo kunye nomlawuli wenkqubo yonyango olunzulu lokuphazamiseka kunye ne-phobias ezithile kwiYunivesithi yaseBoston Iziko loxinzelelo kunye nokuphazamiseka okunxulumene noko . Ulapha ukuba anikezele ngeengcebiso ezisibhozo zokuzama ukuhlala uzolile kwaye, uqhubeke xa useluhambeni.
1. Yakha ngexesha elongezelelweyo.
Ukuba ukubhabha kukoyikisa okanye imigca yezokhuseleko ibangela ukuba uxinzelelo lonyuke, ngokuqinisekileyo zinike itoni yexesha lokufika kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya, utshilo uFarchione. Into ephambili ayibonayo ngabantu kukungazishiyi ixesha elaneleyo lokulawula izinto ekufuneka ujongane nazo ukuze ubhabhe. Ke gcina imali kwiiyure ezimbalwa ezongezelelweyo: Zinike ixesha lokuhlala phantsi, uphumle, ufumane ikofu. Ngaphandle koko, uyalumkisa, inokuba ingabantu ababalekayo banqumle kwisiphelo sendlela kunye nabantwana abathathu kwi-tow kunye nesihlanu sokuqhuba ukubamba inqwelomoya yabo. Akukho mfuneko yokongeza kwimeko esele inexinzelelo kuba khange wakhe ngexesha elongezelelweyo-ngakumbi ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ubhabhe usiya kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya esinexinzelelo eMelika.
2. Zibekele ulindelo olusengqiqweni.
Yakha i-iron ngokwakho oko kuzayo, ucebisa uFarchione. Oko kuthetha ukuba, zilungiselele ngokubeka ulindelo ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba uqhuba umgama omde ngexesha apho wonke umntu naye emka, kuyakuthatha iyure eyongezelelweyo okanye ukuze uye kwindawo oya kuyo. Ingavakala icacile, kodwa kwabo bethu bakhathazeka ngokungakhathali xa sibona imigca ebomvu yezithuthi ezininzi iiMapps , yingcebiso eluncedo. Ngokucinga ngokugcwala kwabantu kunye nokulibaziseka kwezinto eziyinxalenye yendalo njengenxalenye yento ayibiza ngokuba sisivumelwano sepakeji, baya kuba lula ukwamkela.
3. Zama ukuhlala ulungile - okanye ungathathi cala.
Amaxesha amaninzi, utshilo uFarchione, ngokutsala ingqondo kunye nendlela yokwamkelwa esekwe, ngaba ungangena kwimeko apho ungagwebi kakubi ngayo? Ukuba kumgca wokhuseleko omde, kodwa unexesha elininzi, uyabuza, Yintoni eyona nto inkulu? Ukuba ulandele incam yakhe yokuqala malunga nokwakha ngexesha elongezelelekileyo, nonke nisetiwe: Ungadlala kwifowuni yakho emgceni okanye esangweni ngelixa ulinde inqwelomoya-ukuba ukwindawo yokhuseleko, nguwuphi umahluko iyenza? Ucebisa ukuba uzixelele ukuba lo ngumgca omde ngaphandle kokongeza isiqwenga esongezelelweyo kwaye andinakukunyamezela oku.