U-Lizzie Post, umzukulwana omkhulu ka-Emily Post, umbhali , kunye nomphathi weqela I-Etiquette ePhakamileyo yePodcast , uvumile ukujonga ubunzima kwimibuzo embalwa yokuziphatha yokuhamba ngokwembono ye-politesse. Ugqunyiwe isihlalo senqwelomoya , ukungqengqa okanye ukungaleli , ingalo iphumle, kwaye abantwana kwiinqwelomoya . Apha, unobunzima kumgaqo wokuqeshisa wexesha elifutshane.

Nokuba yeyiphi indawo yokuhamba-hamba yokuhlala-iihotele, ii-B & Bs, okanye i-Airbnb kunye neVRBO — kufanelekile ukuthi ukurentwa kwexesha elifutshane kuyiphakamisile imigaqo yokuziphatha. Ehotele ungangena ungene ngegama elingachazwanga kwaye uxhome ungaphazamisi uphawu, kodwa kwi-Airbnb, izingeniso kunye nabo bafuna indawo yobuqu banokujongana nomceli mngeni. Nantsi indlela yokuphatha ngokwakho xa ufuna ixesha lokuhamba wedwa-ukusuka ePosini nakwiminyaka engama-33 yokubamba iindwendwe kwi-Airbnb eNew Orleans, eLouisana.

Unamalini okuncokola nombuki zindwendwe wakho? Uya unayo ukuba nentlalo?

Thumela : Njengokunxibelelana naluphi na uxabiso okanye inkxalabo, kunye nokufumanisa imigaqo. Oko kukuthi uhlala endlwini yomntu [uphelele] okanye kwigumbi. Sisilo esahlukileyo eso ngaphandle kwehotele, kodwa kwangaxeshanye, yinkonzo kwaye 'Uzohlala kwam, kwaye ungandihlawulela ngayo,' kodwa zizinto ekuvunyelwana ngazo ngalo lonke ixesha ngaphambi kokubhukisha. Kuya kufuneka sele unayo imigaqo kunye nemigaqo eqondwayo yento ohamba kuyo.

Umgcini : Sithanda ukuba ngabaphathi bezixhobo ngaphandle kokuba umntu abonise umnqweno wokuxhoma.

Ngaba uxelela umntu ngokuchanekileyo xa udibana naye ukuba uya kufuna ixesha lokuzimela wedwa?

Thumela: Lindela kude kubekho ulwaphulo-mthetho; kuyakhawuleza ukomelela ngengalo yomntu-ukubeka ingalo yakho ngokuchasene nabo. [Kodwa] xa utshintshiselana ngeimeyile, usenokuthi, ‘Ukuze wazi nje, uhlobo lohambo lwam, ndikhangele eli xesha lokuba ndithe cwaka kwaye ndizibonise; Ndijonge ngenene ukuba ndithule kwaye ndingabi ngabantu abathandanayo nababandakanyayo. Ndingathanda ukwazi imithetho yakho; nceda uyazi ukuba ndiza kubalandela, kodwa ndiza kuzigcina ngokusondeleyo. '

Umgcini: Kulungile kuluhlu lwethu ukuba siyakuba sentlalontle okanye singabi loluntu njengokuba ufuna sibe njalo. Sifuna iindwendwe zazi ukuba siyafumaneka kwaye sonwabile ukuncokola kwaye siyavuya ukubanika izindululo, kodwa kuya kubakho amaxesha apho singafuniyo ukuncokola neendwendwe zethu. Ndiligqwetha. Ndiyaxakeka.

Kuthekani ukuba umbuki zindwendwe uyanyanzeleka ukuba uzokucenga-yiza endlwini yakho ngexesha elibi?

Thumela : Ukuba umntu uzama ukwehla aze kuphunga iti okanye into ethile, usenokuthi, ‘Ndibuxabisa ngokwenene ububele; nangona kunjalo, ndifuna ixesha ndedwa. ’Ukuba beza emnyango kwaye lixesha elibi, usenokuthi,‘ Ngoku asiloxesha elimnandi eli, kodwa enkosi kakhulu; Ndingene nzulu kwingcinezelo yomsebenzi ’okanye nokuba yintoni na. ‘Usale kakuhle.’ Akuwuvuli umnyango yonke indlela; awubamemi; ugcina imiqobo ebonakalayo inyuke kancinci.

Kuthekani ukuba bakhubekisiwe?

Thumela: Asinguye wonke umntu oza kwi-Airbnb yakho ofuna ukuphathwa ngokungathi bakubhedi nakwisidlo sakusasa. Ukuba umbuki zindwendwe uthi ngaphambili, ‘Sithanda ukuphatha njengondwendwe lwethu; lungela inkonzo yeti ukuba siyehla ngentsimbi yesi-4 emva kwemini, ’kufanelekile ukuba ukulungele. Ababuki zindwendwe kufuneka banxibelelane nokuba bafuna ukubabamba iindwendwe kangakanani. Kwaye abantu abafuna ii-Airbnb kufuneka bazi ngokwabo. Banokungena kumamkeli weairbnb: ‘Ndilufuna ngokwenyani olu hlobo lwamava, kodwa ndifuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba iyangqinelana nento oyinikayo njengombuki zindwendwe.’ Kulungile ukuba ayidibani. Unokuthi, 'Ndicinga ukuba ndiza kukhangela indawo eyahlukileyo.'

Ngaba ukunxibelelana kwangaphambili kunokunceda?

Thumela: Ewe. Ukutshintshana ngaphambi kwexesha kusete ithoni; Ababuki zindwendwe kunye neendwendwe ngokufanayo kufuneka bayiqwalasele. Ukuba umbuki zindwendwe akenzi njalo, kuya kufuneka. Ungundwendwe; ubhatala imali.

Umgcini : Ewe. Kumamkeli zindwendwe, ukwazi okuninzi malunga neenjongo zohambo lwakho kusoloko kuluncedo; yintoni injongo yoluhambo kwaye ufuna ntoni ngalo?