Bendi ngumhambi ubomi bam bonke - kwaye bendinethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba nosapho olubeke phambili ekufumaneni iindawo ezintsha zobuntwana. Ngoku, lithuba lomtshana wam. Kwiminyaka emibini ubudala, enamazwe asixhenxe ezantsi, usendleleni eya ekubeni ngummi wehlabathi.

Ngelixa uhamba nomntwana nangaliphi na ixesha kunokubonakala ngathi lithemba elinzima, iingcali zibanga ukuba zinokukhuthaza kakhulu ukukhula. Batsho ukuba ukuhamba kungalandisa ilizwe lomntwana, kubenze babe novelwano ngakumbi ngokwahluka ngokwenkcubeko nokubanceda baziqhelanise neemeko eziguqukayo. Inokude ibumbe ukukhula kwabo kweelwimi njengeentsana.

Kwaye bazakuqala ukufunda izixhobo zokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane obunentsingiselo, ngakumbi kuyo yonke iyantlukwano, besebancinci, uGqr.Robin Hancock, ingcali kwezemfundo kwihlabathi liphela ngeBhanki yaseKholejini. Ukuhamba + Ukuzonwabisa . Ukuhamba kunakho ukudala ingxelo entsha efundisa abantwana ngokufana nabanye [kwaye] ibeka isiseko esomeleleyo, ngakumbi kwiminyaka yokuqala ... Sinethuba lokukhulisa isizukulwana esaziyo ukuhlala nokuhlala kunye enye.

Ndijonge umtshana wam ezama iimbotyi okokuqala eLa Guarida eHavana, ethatha kwaye ethathela ingqalelo umntu ngamnye, phantse ngokungathi uyayivavanya. Ndimbonile ebambelela iinyawo kuLwandle oluFileyo (kwaye emva koko uzikhuphe ngokukhawuleza kwakhona), kunye nokuzama i-gelato phantsi komthunzi weDuomo eFlorence.

Isenokungazikhumbuli ezi zigigaba, kodwa ziya kuba nefuthe kuphuhliso lwayo, ngokukaHancock. Eyona nto ikhawulezayo ukukhula kwengqondo kwenzeka kwiminyaka emihlanu yokuqala yobomi bomntwana, ngakumbi kwiminyaka emithathu yokuqala, utshilo. Ukujikeleza abantwana ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu ubudala nabantu abahlukileyo kunabo baqhelekile kumava.

Ukuhamba kunye nokufundisa abantwana ngendima yabo njengabemi behlabathi xa bebancinci kuqinisekisa ukuba baya kuwugcina loo myalezo nakubantu abadala, utshilo. Xa umntu eqala umkhwa okanye isiko ... kwasekuqaleni kobomi, esiba sisiseko abalijonga ngalo ihlabathi ubomi babo bonke.

Ukuhamba nabantwana abancinci - nokuba bebancinci kwiinyanga ezintandathu ubudala - nako kunokubanceda kuphuhliso lweelwimi, utshilo u-Erika Levy, unjingalwazi onxulumene nesayensi yezonxibelelwano kunye nokuphazamiseka kwiKholeji yeTitshala kwiYunivesithi yaseColumbia.

Siyazi ukuba malunga nolwimi, iintsana zibona izandi ngokwahlukileyo kubantu abadala. Njengokuba bekhula ... bephulukana namandla okwahlula ezinye izandi zentetho, utshilo uLevy. Ukuba sibangqongile ngezandi zentetho ezivela kwihlabathi liphela ... ke sigcina ezo ndidi zihamba, ezinceda kamva ebomini ngolwimi lwabo.

Kwaye xa bebuyela ekhaya bevela kuhambo, amava abo anokubanceda esikolweni, ngokukaHancock.

Ibenza ukuba bavuleleke ngakumbi ukuzama izinto ezintsha [kwaye] bangalumki kangako abantu kunye neemeko ezingaqhelekanga kubo, utshilo. Ngokuqinisekileyo iya kwenza abantwana bavule ngakumbi kwaye isuse ukukhetha.

Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nendlela yokwandisa amava omntwana wakho xa useluhambeni.

Thatha uhambo lokuhambahamba kwindawo yokuhlala.

Ngelixa kumnandi ukubona umtsalane ophambili kwindawo oya kuyo, ukuhamba ujikeleze ubumelwane bendawo inokuba lelinye lawona maxesha aneempembelelo kubantwana, utshilo uHancock. Ingqondo yomntwana ithanda ukwenza unxibelelwano ngokusekwe kwinto eqhelekileyo kubo. Ukuba uhlala eVenice, chitha ixesha kwiGrand Canal, kwaye ukuba uhlala eParis, chitha ixesha yi-Eiffel Tower, kodwa iziqwenga ezingqinelana nabantwana ngamava abanokuwanxibelelana nawo, utshilo. Iya kuba nentsingiselo kumntwana wakho ukuba ufumana nje ubumelwane obuzolileyo uhambe uhambe… Ngokuqinisekileyo, uza kubona abantu betshayela eyadi yabo yangaphambili kunye nabathengisi bendawo. Kwaye loo nto inentsingiselo ngakumbi-uza kufumana isilayidi esingcono sokuba bunjani ubomi bemihla ngemihla kwaye nomntwana wakho uya kwenza njalo.

Yenza isiko ngelixa useholideyini.

Amasiko anokunceda abantwana banxibelelane nohambo. Umzekelo, njengabantwana, mna nodadewethu saqokelela iibhotile zesoda kwilizwe ngalinye esalityelelayo. Amasiko abalulekile ebantwaneni, utshilo uHancock. Nantoni na onokunxulumana nayo kwihlabathi lomntwana iya kuba ngamava anentsingiselo kubo.

Yenza abantwana bakho badlale nabanye abantwana.

Ukwahlula abantwana nabanye abantwana abakwiminyaka yabo yobudala kuya kunceda ukukhula kwabo, nokuba abathethi ulwimi olunye, ngokweLevy. Benze ukuba badibane nabanye abantwana- bazakudlala, bafunde kwaye bafumane iindlela zonxibelelwano, utshilo. Kwaye baya kufunda ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu othetha isiNgesi.

Guqula uhambo lwakho lube ngumdlalo.

Cela abantwana ukuba babonise izinto ezintsha kubo, umcebisi werhafu Bacele ukuba bakubonise izinto ezintathu abangazange bazibone ngaphambili ekhaya. uthe, Ungabazingela ubuncwane.

Lungiselela abantwana bakho kwangethuba.

Ukulungiselela abantwana izinto abaza kuvavanya ngazo kungahamba indlela ende, ngokweLevy. Umzekelo, baxelele kwangaphambili malunga ne-jet lag, okanye ukuba bayoyika ukuhamba, yiza nento yokudlala ekhethekileyo kwinqwelomoya. Kodwa ekugqibeleni, awufanelanga ukuba nexhala kakhulu: U-Levy uthe abantwana bathanda ukuba bhetyebhetye ngakumbi kunakwimeko ezintsha.