Ukuba kwi ubudlelwane bomgama omde yenye yezona zinto zinzima isibini esingahamba ngaso. Isithandwa sam sisebenze eBurundi iminyaka ngelixa ndihlala kwisiXeko saseNew York, kwaye ukuyitsho into yokuba kunzima ukuba yinto encinci.

Ngethamsanqa, wabuyela eMelika ukusuka eMpuma Afrika kanye phambi kwe isifo esikho elizweni jikelele sentsholongwane ye-Corona hit, kwaye ngokuhlekisayo, ngoku sivalelwe sodwa. Ngenxa yeziganeko zangoku, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba imeko yethu edlulileyo ikhawuleze yaba yinto eqhelekileyo kubantu abaninzi kwihlabathi liphela.

Ke ukukunceda ugcine ubudlelwane obunempilo obude, ngakumbi ngala maxesha anzima, siye sajongana nonyango losapho UGqr Kathryn Smerling kunye no-Nikki Lewis kunye no-Greta Tufvesson, abaququzeleli beenkonzo ezithandwayo zokwenza umdlalo. IBevy , Ingcebiso yeengcali. Siyayiqonda into yokuba uninzi lwenu lungakulungelanga ukuthatha umgama omde, kodwa apha ngezantsi zezinye iingcebiso eziza kuninceda niphume kule nto ngokulula kwaye mhlawumbi nize nivelise icala elitsha elimangalisayo lobudlelwane benu nelingalindelekanga kuni.

1. Ukufuna ukwazi kubalulekile.

Ukuba kukho nantoni na owakha wafuna ukuyazi malunga nenye yakho ebalulekileyo, ngoku lixesha elifanelekileyo lokubuza nokuphuhlisa unxibelelwano olunzulu. Eli lithuba elihle lokufumanisa omnye komnye ngencoko enentsingiselo, uSmerling uxelele Ukuhamba + Ukuzonwabisa . Kwangelo xesha, ezi ngxoxo ziguqula ubomi akufuneki zibenzima. Fumana into enomdla kuyo yomibini kwaye nihlekise, utshilo. Yenza umdlalo ngaphandle kokubuza omnye nomnye imibuzo okanye uza nezona zihloko zingacwangciswanga, ngaphandle kwebhokisi oza kuxoxa ngazo. Ekugqibeleni, awusoze wazi ukuba incoko iza kukhokelela phi, kwaye bubuhle bayo.

2. Nxibelelana, thetha, nxibelelana.

Nanini na xa ndinengxaki nesithandwa sam, bendidla ngokuvala kwaye ndingamhoyi kangangeentsuku. Kuba sasinalo lonke ulwandlekazi lweAtlantic phakathi kwethu, ndakhawuleza ndalwenza umkhwa. Ngokucacileyo, le yayiyindlela embi yokusombulula iingxaki zethu, kwaye kuye kwafuneka ndizikhumbuze ukuba sikule nto sikunye. Isitshixo sokufumana impumelelo kulwalamano lunxibelelwano, ukuthembeka, kunye novelwano, utshilo uLewis. Nokuba zilungile okanye zimbi, ukungafihli nto ngeemvakalelo zakho kuya kwenza ubudlelwane bakho buzinze ngakumbi. Kuya kubakho amaxesha ahlukeneyo xa kuya kufuneka unike ngaphezulu kwaye uthathe kancinci, kwaye kungenjalo. Kuvakala kulula ngokwaneleyo, kodwa uvelwano ludlala indima enkulu xa ubomi bujika ngendlela engalindelekanga.

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3. Cwangcisa owona mhla.

Nokuba ukwamazwe ahlukeneyo okanye uvalela wedwa ngeekhilomitha ezimbalwa, imihla ayifanelanga ukuba ingekho etafileni. Hlala phantse ukugcina amabhabhathane ehamba. Awusabelani ngothando lwakho ngochuku okanye imisebenzi ekwabelwana ngayo, ke jolisa kwinto onokuyenza kunye, utshilo uTufvesson. Dlala umdlalo webhodi okanye Sondeza in nabahlobo bakho nabo abatshatileyo ukuba umhla kabini. Nokuba yinto elula 'yokucinga ngawe' okanye umnxeba othi molo, yenze. Ayonto ingabalulekanga, kwaye inokukwenza uzive usondelelene ngakumbi kunokuba beninokuba kunye.