Mna nomyeni wam, singoyiki nakweyiphi na ingozi esinokujamelana nayo isibini esitshatileyo phakathi kwamanye amazwe, sihambe ngokungenaloyiko ngokwaneleyo ukoyikisa abasebukhweni. KwiiPhilippines. Kheyip Verde. Vanuwata. Kholambiya. Asiyi kuya eBrunei, nangona kunjalo. Asiwavumeli amazwe apho kusemthethweni ukugibisela abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye. Ngapha koko, asikuvumeli ukuxulutywa kwabantu ngamatye bafe ngokubanzi. Kwaye ayisiyiyo nje ngokuba ingcolile. Mna noBrendan andifuni kuxhasa uqoqosho lweendawo ezinemithetho yabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana besisini esinye, njengeMyanmar, iKenya, okanye iSaudi Arabia - usapho lwasebukhosini lwakutshanje alufuni matyala wethu eedola ezintathu.
Siye saya kwi Maldivs , apho batyakatya abantu ngesenzo sobufanasini, kodwa kubonakala ngathi kukho imithetho eyahlukileyo yabemi kunye nabakhenkethi- ndicinga ukuba abakhenkethi bafumana amagama akhuselekileyo. Senze okwahlukileyo kuba ukunyuka kwamanqanaba olwandle kunokuyitshabalalisa iMaldives, eyenziwe zii-1,200 zeziqithi kuLwandlekazi lwaseIndiya, ngasekupheleni kwenkulungwane. Ngandlel 'ithile, amava ethu kwelo lizwe lamaSilamsi, apho iindwendwe zihlala khona kwiindawo zokutyela ezintle, asifundisa ukuba singacingi. Ndifumanise ukuba imigaqo malunga nokuziphatha kukawonke-wonke inokufumana ubumdaka kwiindawo ezinemithetho yenkululeko, kwaye iindawo ezinolwazelelelo ngokuqinisekileyo zinokukumangalisa.
Mhlawumbi iya ngaphandle kokuthetha ukuba imithetho engalunganga ikhethwa kukufa ngokuxulutywa ngamatye. Kodwa ukungaqondakali kunye nokubuka iindwendwe akuxubeki kakuhle; abahamba ngokwesini bafuna unyango olufanayo nolo luqondile, kwaye iindawo ekuchithelwa kuzo iiholide kunye neehotele zifuna ukufumana inani elandayo labakhenkethi abachonga njenge-LGBTQ. Okwangoku, ngaphandle kwe-honeymoon kunye nemitshato, zimbalwa iimeko ezithi zivele ngokwendalo apho ihotele yakho kufuneka ngokuqinisekileyo ivume ubume bobudlelwane bakho, ngaphandle kokuba une-hissy fit xa isilele ukwenza i-swans swans yakho kunye neqabane lakho. Ke kukho uluhlu olubanzi lwempendulo ezinokubakho. Uninzi lweehotele aluniki izimvo okanye amalungiselelo akhethekileyo, aqinisekileyo okanye amabi. Abanye babonakala ngathi bafuna ukulungiselela iindwendwe ze-LGBTQ kodwa bahlala befumana iinkcukacha ezingalunganga-ngamanye amaxesha zihlekisa- kwaye abanye badidekile.
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Nangona kwiindawo ezinobungqingili e-US naseNtshona Yurophu, nangona kunjalo, abantu abahlali beqonda ukuba mna nomyeni wam sihlangene. Siziintlobo ezahlukeneyo zomzimba, asikhange siqhathanise amagama ethu, kwaye asifumananga makhonkco. Asikaze sizenze ngathi sithe tye, kodwa kuyabonakala ukuba singadlula, ubuncinci kude kube bubusuku be-Sports Trivia Night. Ke kwiindawo ezinokubonakala okuphantsi kwesini, ngamanye amaxesha siva abantu bezama ukusifumana. EVanuatu, omnye wabanini be-bungalow esasihlala kuyo wandibuza ukuba umyeni wam ungumntu othanda ezemidlalo, ekubeni ebaleka ntsasa nganye; Ndicinga ukuba wayecinga ukuba ndingumqeqeshi wakhe. Ngaphantsi kwaziphi ezinye iimeko amadoda amabini akhulileyo alala kunye kuwo? Kwihotele eyahlukileyo, umgcini-sango wabuza, ingaba nina nikumkhosi wenqanawa? Ndinqwenela ukuba ngendithe ewe. Ngoku ikhona isizathu esivakalayo sokuba amadoda amabini akhulile abelane ngebhedi enye.
Sichithe eyethu Ikhefu lomtshato (kunye nosuku lokuzalwa komyeni wam) eVietnam, kwindawo enjengephupha kwisiqithi sasePhu Quoc, apho abasebenzi babengayamkeli nje kuphela - babebonakala bonwabile ngokukhethekileyo ukuya kumgama ongaphezulu. Ndabaxelela ukuba ngumhla wokuzalwa kukaBrendan, kodwa andikhange ndibacele ukuba bazise ikhekhe kunye nekhandlela ebharini kuye. Oku kwilizwe elinenkqubo yeqela elinye kwaye akukho nkululeko yeendaba. Emva kwexesha, umntu osebenza nathi usixelele ukuba abasebenzi abasebenza edesikeni ngaphambili ubukhulu becala babevela kwiiPhilippines, endiva ngathi ndinomdla wokuziphatha ngokwesini kune-Vietnam.