Kwiinyanga nje ezintandathu ngaphambi kokuba uMarjorie White athenge isithuthuthu sakhe sokuqala, unyana wakhe oneminyaka engama-25 ubudala, uTom, wabulawa kabuhlungu kwibhayisikile yakhe ngumqhubi owenza u-U.
Efuna indlela yokumelana nokusweleka konyana wakhe, uMhlophe waphuma wayokuthenga iYamaha 100 eqaqambileyo eluhlaza, isitalato kunye nebhayisekile emdaka. Kwakungo-2014, kwaye wayeneminyaka engama-58.
Ndifuna into ethile kum - enye indlela yokuhambisa ngaphaya kwentlungu eyayindibeke endaweni, utshilo uWhite. Andizukwazi ukuba lixabiseke kangakanani ukukhwela izithuthuthu iya kuba yimpilo yam yengqondo.
Ukufa konyana wakhe ngesithuthuthu akuzange kumnqande. KuMhlophe, ukukhwela ibhayisekile kwakufana nokunyuka kothuthu njengephoenix.
Ukukhwela ihashe kwandinceda ndaziva ndiphila, ndaphinda ndafumana uvuyo. Kukucamngca, ukwakha ukuzithemba, kunye nokukhuthaza. Ndiziva ndikunye nendalo iphela-xa kuvunyelwene, ukuba uyathanda.
UWhite uqhubeke nokukhwela enqumla ilizwe, kwinto ayibizayo Umkhonto kaMama kaTom , Ukusuka eMaryland ukuya eCarlifonia ukuya kuphinda afumane uvuyo lobomi. Yayikukukhutshwa, kunye nokuzalwa kwakhona, kwakufuneka.
Kunye Abasetyhini bathwele imisebenzi yasekhaya, ukhathalelo lwabadala, kunye ukhathalelo lomntwana Ngexesha le Isifo esikho elizweni jikelele se-covid-19 , kwaye bobabini abazali bahlala besebenza ekhaya, ukufumana igumbi elilelona kunzima kakhulu kunakuqala.
Umqhubi wesithuthuthu wasetyhini kwiDili Gap Ityala: IQuena yekotaUmqeqeshi wesithuthuthu Ikota yeQueena , owayekade esebenza kwezempilo yengqondo, exhasa imeko yonyango lwendalo lwe ndikhwele isithuthuthu . Unyango lwesithuthuthu luyaziphilisa ngokwalo, kodwa ukuya kwinqanaba elinzulu nembonakalo yakho kwaye ubonakalise ngokucacileyo kwimibala kwaye indalo iyanceda ukuthatha nantoni na eyayixakekisa ingqondo yakho, utshilo uQuý. Ungaqhuba imoto yonke imihla, kodwa awukaze uyibone imbonakalo yelizwe isiza kuwe kangako - iyanceda ukushenxisa ukuma okungathi uziva.
White, osandula ukuthenga esinye isithuthuthu- umdlalo ophindaphindiweyo we-Yamaha XT250 oza kuwusebenzisa kwiindlela ezincinci ezinamahlathi kunye nokwenza njengesixhasi sebhayisekile yakhe enkulu, iBMW F800GS - ukholelwa ukuba eli lelona xesha lifanelekileyo lokuba abafazi bafunde khwela.
Ukukhwela ukukhangela zonke iibhokisi zokuba kude ekuhlaleni, utshilo uWhite. Ngokucacileyo, andikhenkethi okanye andihambi ndawo ndikhwele. Ngapha koko, zonke iintlanganiso zam kunye nohambo lwam ziye zarhoxiswa okanye zarhoxiswa. Kodwa ndisakwazi ukukhwela ndedwa, okanye nabahlobo nje abambalwa, kwaye ndihlale ndikhuselekile.
UMhlophe akayedwa ekucingeni ngoku lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba abafazi bafunde ukukhwela. Ukuthengiswa kwezithuthuthu kunyuke phakathi kobhubhane - ayothusi, kuba zithathwa njengenye ye ezona ndlela zikhuselekileyo zothutho ngoku, ngakumbi kwiindawo ezisezidolophini, apho uninzi lwabemi lungenakho ukufikelela okanye lungafuni ukupaka kwaye lube nemoto yabucala.
Awukho omnye umdlalo olungele ubhubhane kuba ukuvumela ukuba ube wedwa wedwa, utshilo uQuý. Kodwa kukwalungile ukuba uneengxaki zamathambo okanye zezihlunu, [ezinje] ezinqeni ezimbi ezingakuvumeliyo ukuba wenze izinto ezifana nokunyuka. Iya kuba ngumceli mngeni ngakumbi, kodwa usengayenza.
Umqhubi wesithuthuthu wasetyhini kwiDili Gap Ityala: IQuena yekota