Ihlobo sele liqalile ngokusesikweni, kunye nalo, ixesha leholide lezigidi zeentsapho zaseMelika-uninzi lwazo oluza kuya elwandle. Mna nomyeni wam besicinga ukuba sibufezekisile ubugcisa beholide yaselwandle kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo: zeziphi iinqwelomoya zokuhamba (nantoni na kwangethuba, ukuze sibesesantini ngentsimbi yesi-2: 00 ngokuhlwa), zingaphi iincwadi esiza kuzizisa, zeziphi ii-cocktails ezingcamle ngcono ngaselwandle (negroni kuye, margarita kum).

Sakuba sinonyana wethu, uBobby, yonke loo mithetho yakudala yaphuma ngefestile. Ukuhamba nosana-ukubhabha, ukungena ehotele-akunto ilula, ngakumbi kubazali bokuqala. Kodwa uhambo lokuya kwindawo yokuchithela elunxwemeni usana okanye usana oluncinci lubonisa imiceli mngeni eyahlukileyo kunohambo lwakho oluqhelekileyo, enkosi kwizithako zelanga, isanti, kunye namanabasi okudada.

Ngoku siyenzile le beach rodeo amatyeli ambalwa, ndiza kwabelana ngezinto esizifundileyo, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, iimpazamo esizenzileyo endleleni, ukuze uhambo lwakho lube nethemba lokuhamba kakuhle.

Musa ukulindela ukufumana ukufundwa kwakho

Uhambo lwakho lokuqala lolwandle luya kukutyumza, ukuba awuwuvumeli lo mthetho. Kwiholide yethu yokuqala noBobby, owayenonyaka ubudala xa sasisiya eTurks naseCaicos, mna noRob besisacinga njengabantu bakudala. Sipakishe amaphephancwadi, iincwadi, ii-Kindles, uzibiza ngegama, ngombono wokuba siza kuba nexesha lokuphumla kunye nexesha lokuphumla ukuze sifumane lonke ulwazi olubalulekileyo (kwaye silale) esikhumbula ekhaya.

Wow, besikhe sahamba. Ndicimile ngoku, ndiyazihleka. Kungekudala ndafunda iphepha elinye lenoveli yam kunokuba uBobby wayefuna ukondliwa, okanye ukutshintsha, okanye ndifuna nje ingqalelo yam, kuba yile nto ifunwa ziintsana: Ingqwalaselo yakho engaphelelanga. Abakhathali ukuba ufuna ukufunda incwadi yehlobo.

Ukubhengezwa ngokupheleleyo, mna noRob sobabini sicatshukisiwe- kunye naye, kunye nabanye, ngobomi. Oku bekufanele ukuba kukuseta kwengqondo yethu, apho siza kuvela njengabazali abaphumleyo, abakrelekrele. Kodwa emva koko saqonda ukuba ubomi bufutshane kakhulu, sasiseparadesi, kwaye kuyakubakho ixesha lokufunda uMarie Kondo xa wayeneminyaka esixhenxe.

Iphuli vs ulwandle - khetha ityhefu yakho

IParrot Cay, yenye yeendawo ekuchithelwa kuzo iiholide esasihlala kuzo eTurks naseCaicos, yaziwa ngokuba yindawo yokuhlala abathandana nabatshatileyo. Banedama elihle elingenasiphelo, kwaye yindawo efanelekileyo yokuphumla.

Kwiintsuku zethu ezimbini zokuqala zeholide, sakhetha ukumisa apho, kodwa saziva sixhalabile ngandlela zonke. Ngaba uBobby wayekhathaza isibini esikhulileyo ecaleni kwethu, isibini esasizama ngokucacileyo ukuba sifumane ukufundwa kwabo? (Impendulo: mhlawumbi wayenjalo.) Kuthekani ukuba ngempazamo uBobby warhubuluza waya kuwa echibini? Ungathini xa athe waqengqa esihlalweni sokuphumla kwaye wabetha ngentloko yakhe emileyo kumgangatho wamaplanga? Ngamafutshane, saziva ngathi asinayo indawo yokuchopha kwaye sasisoloko sisezinzwaneni zethu, sikhathazeka ngento ethile.

Emva koko, sahamba eminye imizuzu emihlanu saya elwandle. Yayibanzi. Isanti yayithambile. Kwakukho umgama osempilweni phakathi kwezitulo zethu namanzi, kwaye nokuba wayenokulingwa ukuba akhase, singambamba. Wayenokuphosa izinto zokudlala emhlabeni kwaye zazingazukuvakala. Le yayiyindawo yethu eyonwabileyo. Ndivile ngabanye oomama abancinci ukuba abantwana babo bayathanda ukutya isanti, yiyo loo nto beluphepha ulwandle. Ukuba ungomnye wabo bantu, ewe, yenza ngqo echibini. UBobby wakhetha ukutya iifriji, ke sasinethamsanqa. Abantu baselwandle, sasikhona.

Ukulala elangeni kunokuba lula kuwe, kunzima kusana

Ngexesha lohambo lwethu lwaseTurks, uBobby wayesathatha ikhefu kabini ngosuku. Kutyelelo lwamva, eKamalame Cay eBahamas, wayephantsi kwenye. Ngexesha leholide yokuqala yaselunxwemeni, bendineminqweno yokuba uza kulala esihlalweni sokuphumla aze alale ngaphandle-enika mna noRob iyure okanye njalo ukuba sithethe kwaye mhlawumbi sifumane i-tan. Ewe, wothuka! Wayengafuni ukulala phandle. Ngokujonga emva, andimgxeki: indawo epholileyo, eyomileyo, i-onesie yomqhaphu, kunye negumbi elimnyama lalikhetha ukubila, ilanga eliqaqambileyo, unogada onemikhono emide, kunye nokukhuthaza imeko entsha, nayiphi na usuku. Ke sihlala sihlala egumbini lethu ngelixa yena elele. Ndilikhumbula ixesha lam lolwandle, kodwa unyana wam ebonwabile, ke ekugqibeleni ibe kukuphumelela. Kolo hambo eBahamas, saba nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba sibe nomgangatho ongaphandle. Yeza iluncedo, kuba bendihlala apho elangeni kwaye (ekugqibeleni!) Ndifunde ngelixa ndibeke iliso kuye.

Hlala kufutshane nesenzo kangangoko

UBobby wayengahambi nakuluphi na olu hambo lwaselwandle. Ke ngelixa bendimthwele, uRob wayephethe zonke izixhobo esasizidinga: amanabukeni, itshintshi yokutshintsha, ukhilimu oyithaphula, iithoyi zaselwandle, i-sunscreen, iitawuli, iseti eyongezelelweyo yeempahla, iseti yesibini yeempahla ezongezelelweyo, kwaye mhlawumbi nezinye izinto ndilibale ngoku kuba ibiziva ngathi ityesi ifanele izinto. Kuba yayinjalo. Ke igama kwizilumko: ukusondela kwegumbi lakho kulwandle okanye echibini, kokonwaba kusapho oya kuba nalo.

Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate

Ayithethi, kodwa unosana elunxwemeni, kwilanga elishushu elishushu. Ukubeka i-sunscreen kuyo kunikiwe, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba bafumana ubisi olwaneleyo, ubisi olungumgubo, kunye namanzi ukuze bahlale bephilile kwaye benamanzi.

Guqula i-diaper yokuqubha ngokukhawuleza

Ndiya kuvuma: Ndonqena kule. Sithathe uBobby elwandle, kwaye emva kokumomisa sahlala kwiilounger zethu okwexeshana, emva koko senyuka saya kwibar yolwandle sifumana okulula. Kwadlula iiyure ezimbini phambi kokuba ndiqonde ukuba anditshintshanga i-diaper. Inkulu, inkulu, impazamo. Onke loo manzi anetyuwa kunye nesanti ezantsi phaya kwakuthetha ukuba ufumene irhashalala elikhohlakeleyo, kwaye bendimqokelelela i-Triple Paste kuye lonke olo hambo. Iyenzeka. Andingoyena mama ungowona mkhulu emhlabeni. Kodwa ngoku ndiyazi ukuba ibum eyomileyo ibalulekile.

Isidlo sasemini kunokuba nge-11: 00 kusasa, isidlo sangokuhlwa nge-5: 30 pm okanye ngo-6

Lo mthetho uyinyani kubo bonke abazali abanabantwana abancinci, nokuba bayaphi na: kuya kufuneka uqhele iiyure zokutya ezingaqhelekanga. Ewe, ayiqhelekanga kumxholo wobomi bakho bakudala. Ngoku ndiphantse ndaneminyaka emibini ndikule gigi, ukubekelwa isidlo sangokuhlwa nge-5: 30 yeyona nto ikhethwayo kuba andinaxhala ngezihlwele. Eyona nto intle malunga neendawo ezininzi zokuchithela ulwandle kukuba bayayiqonda imeko yethu kwaye baneendawo zokutyela ezininzi ukuze zilungele onke amaqela eminyaka. Kananjalo uninzi lwazo lubonelela ngenkuthazo apho abantwana batya simahla-nto leyo intle kuthi abo banamava oku-odola itshizi eyosiweyo eyi-15 yomntwana wabo, ukuze bahlale bengajongwanga.

Splurge kwisitter

Kwakhona, sasisoyika ukwenza oku kwikhefu lethu lokuqala lolwandle. Ukumshiya yedwa nomntu angamaziyo kwabonakala kusoyikisa. Xa sijonga ngasemva, imali ngeyichithwe kakuhle, kuba ngesibe nobusuku nje obuncinci njengabantu abadala abasengqondweni. Sanyanzelisa ukuba simthabathe siye naye kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, kwaye malunga neepesenti ezingama-50 yayilixesha lentlekele-ukukhala, ukunyibilika, ukujonga kwezinye iindwendwe. Sasingabo bantu.

KwiBahamas nakohambo lwakutshanje eCharleston, asithandabuzi. Kwaye xa sele ukrazule loo Bhendi-Aid, akukho kubuya mva. Ngokungafaniyo neehotele zedolophu, iindawo ezininzi zokuchithela elwandle zineenkonzo zokugcina abantwana kwisiza. Kwaye ukuba abenzi njalo, nantsi indawo yokuhamba nosapho kulunge: umntu omthembileyo unokubukela umntwana ngelixa ufumana ubusuku obudingeka kakhulu. Abazali bam beza nam eBahamas, kwaye kufuneka nditsho, ukubanabo bekukho uncedo olukhulu, kuba sonke singatshintshana ngokugcina uBobby exakekile.

Mna noRob sinokuqonda malunga nokuqesha abahlali; ayisiyiyo yonke into yasebusuku yento, kuba, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, sihamba sichitha ixesha kunye nomntwana wethu. Kodwa umhlobo osisilumko wakha wandixelela ukuba ukuhamba nabantwana luhambo, hayi iholide. Ukufumana i-sitter kuvumela i-mindset yeholide ukuba ibuye. Ubuncinci iiyure ezimbalwa.