U-Lizzie Post, umzukulwana omkhulu ka-Emily Post, umbhali , kunye nomphathi weqela I-Etiquette ePhakamileyo yePodcast , uvumile ukujonga ubunzima kwimibuzo embalwa yokuziphatha yokuhamba ngokwembono ye-politesse. Ugqunyiwe isihlalo senqwelomoya , ukungqengqa okanye ukungaleli , ingalo iphumle kwaye abantwana kwiinqwelomoya . Apha, unobunzima kumgaqo wokuqeshisa wexesha elifutshane.

Siyazi ukucebisa umgcini wendlu ehotele, kodwa kuthekani malunga nokuqeshiswa kwexesha elifutshane? Ukuba kukho umrhumo wokucoca onxulunyaniswa nerenti yakho, kufuneka unike ingcebiso? Ungathini ukuba akukho? Kwaye iindwendwe kufuneka zicoce malini, nangayiphi na indlela? Ngumxholo onameva, ke ngoko saya ePost kunye nomamkeli we-Airbnb oneminyaka engama-33 eNew Orleans, eLouisana, ngeengcinga.

Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ndicebise xa ndihlala kwirenti yexeshana?

Thumela : Ukuba kukho umrhumo onxulumene nayo andisiboni ncam isizathu sokunika ingcebiso. Ndijonga iiAirbnbs njengezahlukileyo kunehotele… ukuba kukho imali yokucoca, andizukuhlawula ngaphezulu. Iinkonzo zokucoca zahlukile kuneenkonzo zokucoca ihotele: ‘Eli lishishini lam; Ndibiza iirhafu ngoko ke andifuni ngcebiso. ’… Andizukuyibeka kudidi olufanayo nabasebenzi bokucoca ihotele.

Umgcini: Asibizi mali zokucoca ngezizathu ezibini: Ndifumene ingcebiso yomnye umbuki zindwendwe othe abantu bathanda ukushiya indawo bekwimeko engcono ukuba abayihlawuli imali yokucoceka. Ndiyayixabisa loo nto. Ndicinga ngakumbi ngathi ngu-Uber; konke kubandakanyiwe, akukho tshintshiselwano lwemali. Akukaze kwenzeke ngonyaka wokubamba ukuba umntu ashiye incam.

Kuthekani ukuba akukho ntlawulo idwelisiweyo?

Thumela : Ke andizikhathazi ngayo. Andizishiyi [iindawo] zingcolile. Ndiye ndabuza, ‘Ngaba ufuna iibhedi zihluthwe okanye hayi?’ Kwaye ndenze yonke into icocekile.

Ukuba kukho izinto ozithandayo zokutya nokusela simahla, ngaba uyazitshintsha?

Thumela : Ndishiya oku kuhlalisa; kuxhomekeke kuwe ukuba ugqiba njani ngendlela ekufanele ukuba ihambe ngayo. Ngokwam ndizama ukubuyisela ezinye zezo zinto; Ndizama ukugcwalisa ezinye zezinto ezibalulekileyo… Kuxhomekeka ku) xesha kunye b) nditye malini. Ukuba ndiyatya yonke into efrijini yabo kwaye ayinanto, ewe, ndiza kuzama ukuthenga ukutya okutsha. Ndicinga ukuba ibuyela kwi-'Shiya indawo njengoko uyifumene 'ithiyori. Andizukukhathazeka ngokufumana eyona bhotile yewayini banayo; ukuba bendinabaqhekezi abambalwa kwibhokisi yonke andinakukhathazeka [malunga nokuyitshintsha].

Umbuki zindwendwe (oqhele ukuba nekofu, ibhiya, amaqanda nobisi lweendwendwe): Ndicinga njengesipho undwendwe-inxalenye yokuhlala kwabo-yindlela endicinga ngayo ngayo.

Ukuba imithetho yasekhaya ithi zonke izitya kufuneka uzihlube kwaye ukhulule amashiti, kufanele wena?

Thumela : Ewe kufanelekile; ngokupheleleyo. Olu luhlobo lwento emnandi nge-Airbnb; ukuba awuyithandi into ethethwa sisikhokelo sendlu, akufuneki uhlale apho! Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba isikhokelo sendlu sithethe izinto ngokuzithoba kwaye simeme kuba ndiyakuxelela ukuba uyenza ngathi iqinile kwaye ayisiyondawo yokuhlala iza kucima abantu-okanye ukuba wenza abantu bacinge ukuba abanakufikelela ndiza kuwe ... Ufuna ngokwenene ukuba isikhokelo sendlu yakho sicace, sikhuthaze kwaye simeme. [Into efana] Nendlela esikwazi ngayo ukuyigcina le Airbnb ivela kuncedo lwabantu abahlala njengawe, ke kubaluleke kakhulu kuthi ukuba wenze oku kulandelayo ngaphambi kokuba uhambe. Kuyanceda ukugcina amaxabiso ethu esezantsi ngoko ke akufuneki sisebenzise ukucoca abantu.